Category Archives: RELATIONSHIP

JUST IN: Angelina Jolie speaks out on Brad Pitt divorce

​Angelina Jolie filed for divorce from husband Brad Pitt in order to “protect her children,” the actress’ manager revealed, raising new questions around the couple’s shocking split.

“Angelina will always do what’s in the best interest to protect her children,” Geyer Kosinski, her manager, revealed to Radar. “She appreciates everyone’s understanding of their need for privacy at this time.”

As reported earlier, Jolie filed for divorce from Pitt, citing irreconcilable differences. The 41-year-old is seeking full physical custody over the couple’s six children, which would leave Pitt with visitation rights.

Jolie is being represented lawyer Laura Wasser, who was hired in her divorce from Billy Bob Thornton in 2003 and is currently representing Johnny Depp in his scandalous split from Amber Heard.
Sources close to the pair say the split comes after Angelina strongly disagreed with Brad’s parenting style, claiming the actress was “extremely upset with his methods.”

“This decision was made for the health of the family. She will not be commenting, and asks that the family be given its privacy at this time,” attorney Robert Offer later shared in a statement.

Meanwhile, Angie’s father Jon Voight exclusively revealed to Radar new details on the devastating breakup.
“I don’t know much about it except it must be something serious,” Voight told Radar. “I just got the news and I’m concerned.”

The couple first got together in 2005, after starring in Mr. & Mrs. Smith together. The controversial relationship closely followed Pitt’s high-profile split from then-wife, Jennifer Aniston.

Love Is Not Red

On valentine’s day, my school is always turned into a bloody colour by ‘lovers’. If you don’t have any touch of red, you are either too young to grasp love or too old to still feel it. If you don’t have a lover, you didn’t exist that day. Uncle Matthew said about love, “It is the kind of feeling you feel when you feel the kind of feeling you’ve never felt before”. It begs the questions, Is love like that reliable rising sun that never fails to come every morning or like that denting black spot on your knee that stays after a fall?  Maybe my school was correct, love have some colour to it. Maybe uncle Matthew was right, love is indeed a feeling. Maybe love is really meant for lovers. But is that all love is about?

“The day will come when, after harnessing space , the winds , the tides, gravitation, we shall harness for God the energies of love. And, on that day, for the second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire”

-Pierre Teilhard de Chardin.
Some say love dampens the senses  should never come. Others suggest that if it did come, it should never stay for It comes with too much bother. Society (you and I) have tenaciously misconstrued the science of love. We’ve managed to tweak it to suit our various skewed definitions. I do think that the thing that make love so daunting to understand is its simple nature. 

Love is not ronamce. It’s not always s*x. It’s does not always gain. It is not the light in your eyes when you see Imariabè or the lump in your throat when you hug Dápo. It is not about who is lovable and when it’s convenient. It’ s not moi-moi, it should not be rationed. Love is not religious, tribal or racial. Love is not blind. Love does cost a thing. Love is not that dripping red heart picture on your gallery. No! Love is not red. What did they say about journalist…they consistently repeat a lie with the hope that it will become true. No amount of clothe we wear love can change how it looks. It is either love or not. No semi-love or fake love.
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Love could be petalous as well as thorny. Love is commitment. Believe me, love is the smile on your face when you see your imperfect self in a mirror. It was the pain in mummy’s loins when she bore you. It was the necessity in daddy’s gait as he spank your mischievous b*m b*m. Love was the hurried steps your play mates made into the bush to fetch awolowo leaf to tend your scratched knee. It was the silence Osarodion shared with you when words failed. It was in those things we shared and gave when it was all we had. It was in those voices that prayed and cheered us on when we couldn’t find strength. Love is the offering of forgiveness before it’s ever asked. It was in the k*ss on the altar when you remembered how long Osaro waited to deserve you. Love was when you become vulnerable enough to commit to another soul. Love is simple. It cannot be caged, it can only be given wings. Love is a  debt that can’t be paid in full.

Love is when you let yourself live.

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AMAZING: Dwarf couple joined in amazing fairy-tale wedding

A Sunderland couple who met whilst playing dwarfs in a Snow White panto have gotten married in a fairy-tale wedding, with their miracle son as page boy.

Laura Whitfield, who is just 4ft 2, proposed to 3ft 11 Nathan Phillips a month before the birth of their son – the only ‘double dwarf’ in Britain.

Nathan Junior was born with two different forms of dwarfism, anachondaplasia like his mum and pseudochondaplasia like his dad, and was not expected to survive more than a few hours.
However two years later, the healthy toddler acted as a ring bearer at his parent’s wedding.
They got hitched in the lavish South Causey Inn, in County Durham, among 50 of their closest family and friends. var infolinks_pid = {PID}; var infolinks_wsid = {WSID}; //resources.infolinks.com/js/infolinks_main.js

The Best Relationship Advice I Ever Received

​Relationships are hard. They take a lot of dedication, focus, and work. Finding the right person to settle down with can often feel like a very frustrating game of chance. And even when you do find the right one, you’ll still have your work cut out for you as you make an effort to maintain your relationship.
If you’re looking for a little guidance when it comes to love, you’ve come to the right place. The Cheat Sheet spoke with eight top relationship experts to get some of their best advice. So pull up a chair and read on for more.

1. Take it easy

The best relationship advice I’ve ever gotten, and that I give, is “easy does it.” Too often we get caught up in fear-based needs to control our partner. This pull becomes a destructive compulsion that corrodes the integrity of the relationship. It replaces respect and compassion with anger and resentment. It destroys the quality of our lives and over time, the relationship.
This advice impacted the way I approach romantic relationships in that I allowed for a lot more space, which in turn allowed for less reactivity, more peace, happiness, and respect.  The classic struggle of all relationships is finding the right calculus in the togetherness-and-autonomy equation. Typically, when a relationship is under stress, one of the partners asks for physical space to break the tension. This is suboptimal. The best way to incorporate space is by being proactive and providing emotional rather than physical space. To do this, partners need to allow each other the space to be themselves and to have their experiences without trying to control the outcome or think that you are responsible for their lives and reaction. It’s hard work and takes practice, but the rewards are well worth the effort.

2. Give 90%

My parents advised what they did in their own marriage: “both of you always think about giving 90% to your partner and you both will be very happy.”  They meant it’s so important to think about how your partner is feeling, to stand in their shoes, to be giving and compromising, and emotionally generous. That 10% is for the understanding that sometimes it’s also OK to be a bit selfish, to place your needs first, or stand firm on something. They also made clear that this only works if you are both giving 90%.
I just celebrated my 26th wedding anniversary. I definitely think about my spouse’s needs and feelings the majority of the time and try to be compromising. In return I feel he is 90% thinking of me and how to consider my feelings and be supportive and loving. Sometimes this means giving something up, but actually most times this means we both get what we want and we both feel very loved, supported, and that we are in each other’s corner. I don’t feel afraid to be giving, because he really has my best interests at heart. We are a terrific team and often we agree on what we want. And when we don’t, we tend to take turns supporting the other’s wants.

3. You’re responsible for your own happiness

It’s not my partner’s job to make me happy. It’s my job to make me happy. Of course it’s easy to feel good when my partner is acting in a way that I want —but needing them to be a certain way in order for me to feel good —that’s bondage. Thinking that they’re always going to be in a good mood and directing their affectionate attention towards me — while that may be possible during the initial stage of a relationship, is impossible to sustain long-term. I’m responsible for my happiness. My partner is responsible for her happiness. We deliberately focus on things to feel good in our lives and for things to appreciate in one another.
If you’re looking for someone to complete you —or vice versa—you’re looking in the wrong direction for the lasting happiness, wholeness, and fulfillment that you truly seek. Wouldn’t it be better if you could find a way to feel how you want to feel regardless of what you’re partner is saying or doing?
This advice transformed every relationship in my life – not just the romantic ones.  Before I knew these things, I was unintentionally holding my partner responsible for my happiness. When I learned that I’m responsible for my own happiness and when I learned how to consistently align with it, my entire world transformed.  I now have the freedom to choose if and when I spend time with someone else, and I deliberately choose to spend time with others who get this, too.  My relationships are more meaningful, more loving, more free, and most importantly – more fun!  And my overall happiness continues to grow, too, regardless of whether I’m in a relationship or not.

4. Stop waiting and live your life

When I was single and stressed about finding love, my good friend, Scott, a confirmed bachelor, told me this. He said, “Lisa, you need to calm down, chill out, and stop expecting love to be here already. Your sense of entitlement is killing your ability to attract a good man.” When I realized he was right, I stopped waking up every day feeling angry that love hadn’t found me yet. I stopped being resentful that my friends were married and having lives that felt out of reach to me. I stopped feeling like my life was on hold. As cliché as it sounds, I stopped waiting and started living. Overnight, my outlook changed. My results changed, too. I started meeting men wherever I went. I went on dates, had fun, didn’t give my heart away foolishly, and met my husband. I knew he was The One when he told me, “I’ve always been too nice for the naughty girls and too naughty for the nice ones.” That had been my experience with men.
My advice for singles who are struggling in their search is to look within and ask themselves what part of their own life still needs work. When you clean up your side of the street, you make room for a perfectly imperfect person to see you, celebrate you, and love you. And remember that Mr. Right [or Ms. Right] will not be perfect, but will be perfect for you, just as you’ll be perfectly imperfect for him [or her].

5. Love yourself

You can’t love anyone more than your willingness to love yourself. Through this advice I learned about the importance of caring for my mind, body, and spirit. I liken love to the oxygen mask on a plane. You have to apply it to yourself before applying it to the person next to you. This advice improved my chances of winning my wife’s hand in marriage. She was searching for true love. She wanted someone to spend the rest of her life with. Conveying to her that I loved myself signaled that I could be a pillar of strength and compassion.
6. Don’t put boundaries on others

You can’t put boundaries on someone else—only yourself. If someone is treating you badly, you can’t change their behavior. But you can ask yourself why you accept it and how you can put a boundary on yourself so that you won’t accept it again. It made me take more responsibility for my role in bad relationships. Instead of feeling like a victim of circumstance, I was empowered to reject bad treatment and choose a different person. Also, [remember that] life is a self-fulfilling prophesy. If you believe you are undeserving of happiness, love and prosperity, that’s what the universe will give you.
7. Sometimes love is where you’d least expect it

The hottest, most fun, sieecxst, interesting, growth-stimulating, spontaneous, most romitnac, most eye-opening relationships or experiences all were not with people that I thought I would end up with. Just because a relationship has a shelf life doesn’t mean you shouldn’t enter into it. This advice allowed me to enjoy each interaction for what it was and not try to make it something it wasn’t. And at the end of the day, our life is just a conglomeration of memories and I have many happy memories to think on. This gives me the freedom to experience all life has to offer!
Other good advice: “Always be unexpected.” This doesn’t have to be in grand gestures, but predictability in a relationship = boring = death of romance. Worst Advice? “Don’t worry, it’ll happen.” If I wanted to learn French, if someone told me “Don’t worry, it’ll happen,” how stupid does that sound?! Dating is a skill set like every other and you get out of it what you put into it.
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4 things every man wants from a woman

​While every man is different, there are certain things about a woman that will make any man stand up, take notice, and make him decide he wants to get to know you on a deeper level.
If you want to win the right man’s heart, you need to know what it is that makes a man go from just feeling casual about dating you to wanting and needing you on a deeper level.  I’m going to take you inside a man’s mind you so you understand what it takes to trigger this kind of connection.
And I’m talking about a real man – one who is mature and grounded on a physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual level. They are on a great path and open to growing on a deeply personal level.  I’m betting that’s exactly why you’re on this site: to find a quality kind of guy – a real man looking for a real relationship.
So what does a mature, REAL man want in a woman?
#1) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Playful

There’s something that drives men wild and invites them into a deeper level of “connection” – play.

 

Men love to be active and to play. They were raised to express themselves and connect with those around them through action.
Unfortunately, too many women seem to forget this and want to talk their way into a man’s heart. But the fact is that men don’t “feel it” for you because of what you say.  It’s not your words that make a man attracted to you, it’s the experiences you create with him.
Watch or play sports together, be competitive in casual games like ping pong – even add a little teasing and sarcasm here and there – and you’ll really ramp up the attraction and interest.

#2) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Independent
Lots of women mistakenly believe that men are looking for a “weaker” woman who will make them feel like they are smarter and more powerful.

Nothing could be farther from the truth.
Real men want a woman who inspires them because she has great things going on her own life. They want a woman who has her own purpose other than being in a relationship.

 

A great guy isn’t intimidated by independence and success. What matters to a man is that a woman still has space in her life for a great relationship and is grounded and present when she’s with him.
The best way to communicate this to a man is to stay busy in your own life and not suddenly make him your world.  Don’t drop your own interests, responsibilities, and friends just to be with him.  And then, when you are with him, really BE with him – have fun and give your attention to him and what you’re doing together.
#3) A Real Man Wants A Woman Who Is Emotionally Mature

If a man feels attracted to a woman, eventually there’s going to be a situation that comes up where you and a man will see something differently and misunderstand each other.

How will you respond to this and share your feelings?
A woman who has the maturity to not blame or criticize a man for what she’s feeling, but to share her feelings in an honest and authentic way that helps a man better understand her will be attractive to a man. How a woman handles her emotions is one of the most important things men look for when deciding whether or not to get serious with a woman.  If she lets her emotions get out of control, this is a big red flag to him.
On the other hand, if she can present her feelings to him in a calm, non-dramatic manner, she will win his respect and make him feel like she’s the kind of woman who will be a real partner to him.  He’ll see that she can handle things with a cool head rather than becoming a damsel in distress he has to rescue.
#4) A Real Man Wants A Woman He’s Intensely Attracted To

Fact: Men aren’t as scared of commitment and relationships as they are scared of being in a relationship with a woman where there is no passion and attraction.

A common way women accidentally kill the attraction men might be feeling is by either trying too hard to get him to like you, or by acting like the relationship is too serious too soon.
Relax and let things happen naturally. Make sure you do and say things that interject fun and humor into your relationship from the very start.  There’s nothing more appealing to a man than a great woman who knows how to relax and have fun.
You can do this through playful teasing, flirting, humor, and being unpredictable (in a good way).  For instance, instead of talking about what he does for a living when you meet him (yawn), ask him about what sports he plays and what drives him.  Once you’re in a relationship, don’t be afraid to shake things up.  If you normally go to brunch on Sundays, suggest something completely different like a bike ride and a picnic.  Mixing things up keeps the relationship fun for both of you, and being a woman who is open to new experiences is very attractive to him.
There are specific characteristics that make a man see you as a woman he wants to get to know on a deeper level.  To learn more about what makes a man feel intensely attracted to you, subscribe to Christian’s free e-newsletter.  You’ll get an insider’s view into the male mind, including what he thinks about dating and what makes him want to commit to one woman.

Taste Of True Love (Complete Episode)

​There was once this guy who is very much in love with his girl. This romantic guy folded 1,000 pieces of paper cranes as a gift to his girl.
Although, at that time he was just a small fry in his company, his future didn’t seem too bright, they were very happy together. Until one day, his girl told him she was going to Paris and will never come back. She also told him that she cannot visualize any future for the both of them, so they went their own ways there and then…
Heartbroken, the guy agreed. But when he regained his confidence, he worked hard day and night, slogging his body and mind just to make something out of himself.
Finally with all the hard work and the help of friends, this guy had set up his own company …
You never fail until you stop trying. One rainy day, while this guy was driving, he saw an elderly couple sharing an umbrella in the rain walk ing to some destination. Even with the umbrella, they were still drenched. It didn’t take him long to realize they were his girl’s parents.
With a heart in getting back at them, he drove slowly beside the couple, wanting them to spot him in his luxury sedan. He wanted them to know that he wasn’t the same any more; he had his own company, car, condo, etc. He made it! What he saw next confused him, the couple was walking towards a cemetery, and so he got out of his car and followed…and he saw his girl, a photograph of her smiling sweetly as

ever at him from her tombstone and he saw his paper cranes right beside her…
Her parents saw him. He asked them why this had happened. They explained, she did not leave for France at all. She was ill with cancer. She had believed that he will make it someday, but she did not want to be his obstacle… therefore she had chosen to leave him. Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to,

doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have. She had wanted her parents to put his paper cranes beside her, because, if the day comes when fate brings him to her again…he can take some of those back with him…
Once you have loved, you will always love. For what’s in your mind may escape but what’s in your heart will remain forever.
The guy just wept…The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside her knowing you can’t have her, see her or be with her ever again………hope you understand.
Find time to realize that there is one person who means so much to you, for you might wake up one morning losing that person who you thought meant nothing to you.

These 15 words will definitely sweep her off her feet

​Christina Hendricks’ advice for men in the May issue of Esquire is overflowing with juicy gems — hell, her argument that men should use the word “panties” more because it’s “se*y,” “girlie,” and “naughty” even won me over. (Just don’t try and bring back “moist,” Miss Holloway.) Another quote had me thinking that maybe she’d been reading The Frisky.

“There are better words than beautiful. Radiant, for instance. It’s an underused word. It’s a very special word. ‘You are radiant.’ Also, enchanting, smoldering, intoxicating, charming, fetching.”

Well, we all know how I feel about the word beautiful (yes, please, call me beautiful!), but I wouldn’t toss a man out of bed for calling me any of Hendricks’ suggestions either. Here are 15 other words to call a woman to make her heart go aflutter.

1. Brilliant

2. Hilarious

3.Incredible

4.Breathtaking

5.Enigmatic

6.Heart-stopping

7.Passionate

8.Riveting

9.Fiery

10.Gorgeous

11.Tempestuous

12.Dazzling

13.Exhilarating

14.Courageous

15.Hypnotic
What other words do/would you like to hear?